How do you move forward towards healing?
According to AW Tozer, some people will change when they see the light. Others will change when they feel the heat. How will you respond when you find out the truth or when you feel the pain?
Ladies and gentlemen, fellow toastmasters, good evening.
“As the curtain rises, Hannah hesitantly steps onto the stage for her theatrical début in college. Yet before she can utter her first lines, Hannah—unscripted—collapses in front of the stunned audience.
After countless medical tests, all signs point to one underlying cause: Hannah’s difficult birth. This revelation is nothing compared to what she then learns from her parents: she was actually adopted … after a failed abortion attempt.” (Carpenter, E.L’s review)
Bewildered, angered, and confused, Hannah turns for support to Jason, her oldest friend. He helps her to understand the number one principle, to acknowledge the pain. She just cries and admits her deepest pain to him. She wants to find the truth, so Hannah joins Jason’s group of friends on a Spring Break road trip, embarking on a journey to discover her hidden past … and find hope for her unknown future. (Carpenter, E.L’s review)
In the midst of her incredible journey, she learns principle no. 2, to have a willingness to learn from the past because how we are today is the product of it. So, what she did was she took the great courage to know her birth mother even if it meant hurting herself all over again.
She learns from the nurse (who assisted the abortion) that her birth mother, who had a dream to finish her college, was 18 when she had the twins from a one-night stand with an unknown guy. Having these babies was a great burden to her and that she didn’t know the father, helped convince her to continue the abortion. It was only Hannah who lived and survived and her twin brother Jonathan died during the process. With her new name, and new identity and new life, she started to bury her past and abandoned her twins. But still, she couldn’t hide from her sins, and this kept on haunting her like a ghost. Her horrible day came when Hannah went to her law office, and introduced herself and mentioned the date of her birth, October 1992. She hoped that it meant something to her. However she denied it. There, she found out herself that her real mother really did not want her.
Finally, Hannah finds that life can be so much more than what you have planned. She learns principle no. 3, forgive the person and forgive yourself. We can learn to let go and let God do the impossible through prayer, so that He may give us grace to forgive. The only thing that brings healing in our lives and moving on is forgiveness, so she went back to the law office and wrote a note for her biological mother that said,” I FORGIVE YOU.” Her biological mom broke down and cried. She felt so sorry about her mistakes she’d done in the past. After that she had the courage to admit the truth to her husband. Therefore, she was finally free.
Like her biological mom, it is only through forgiveness of our mistakes that we gain freedom to learn from the experience. But forgiving our shortcomings doesn’t mean denying that they exist. On the contrary, it means facing them honestly and realistically. (p.469)
The story ends well while Hannah hugged her adopted parents and said, “Thank you even for the ugly part of my life, for still wanting me.” I hope like Hannah, we also have the right response when we see the light and when we feel the heat. How? Acknowledge the pain, learn from the past and forgive yourself and others, so we can all move forward.
Toastmasters of the evening.
Vic Johnson. Day by Day with James Allen. Silvia’s Foundation Incorporation. 2004p. 18
Harold J. Sala. Making Your Emotions Work for You. Harvest House Publishers.2009.p. 81
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